Monday, February 3, 2014

what to wear to a mixer

Mixers might be the scariest thing a sorority girl does. You show up to a place and are tasked with meeting new guys, hopefully befriending one or two of them, in order to secure dates for all other date functions. Eek. I don't know about y'all, but I'm pretty terrible at meeting guys, so I feel like there's a lot of pressure to be impressive. But I have to remind myself that impressing guys really isn't that hard. Because the point of the mixer is to meet guys, it's important to look cute and put your best foot forward. Here are my tips for looking your best to give yourself the most confidence.


There's a saying that I firmly believe: "Girls dress for other girls." When we get up in the morning, we usually don't say to ourselves, "Hmmm, will guys notice me in this?" We usually think, "Will other girls think this is a cute outfit? Will I possibly get compliments on this?" It's sad but true, and we usually do it subconsciously. Now that you're thinking about this, it's important to change your mindset and think instead, "Will a guy think I'm attractive in this?"

Now, this doesn't mean you need to show a ton of skin and wear heavy makeup. Surveys indicate that most guys find white v-neck shirts, skinny jeans, and heels are the most attractive outfit a girl can wear. That being said, don't all go out and wear the same outfit. But be mindful that guys are simple creatures with simple tastes. Wear a shirt that is comfortable but not baggy, if you know what I mean, skinny jeans, and shoes with heels (boots, pumps, or wedges work).

My favorite outfit, courtesy of Pinterest


Keep jewelry simple. I know statement jewelry is really popular right now, but it can be a little distracting. Stick with a pretty pair of earrings, a small necklace, a delicate bracelet, etc. Simple and pretty is the key.

Gold Date Night Jewelry

Silver Date Night Jewelry


For hair, guys like long, shiny, curled tresses. If your hair is long, bust out your curling irons and wands and get some pretty curls going. Be sure to use protectant so that you don't end up frying your ends. But if your hair is short, like mine, never fear! Guys love hair that looks soft and touchable, so try a deep conditioner and some smoothing serum to get hair extra soft and shiny. For both long and short hair, you can't go wrong with volume, softness, and shine!


As for makeup, guys like it "natural, like Kim Kardashian." Translation: go for natural colors while still making it obvious you're wearing makeup. Flawless-looking skin, a pretty, glowy flush, and a subtle smoky eye in neutral colors are going to be the best to achieve this (so bust out your Naked palettes, ladies). For the lips, go with a "there but not there" shade of lipstick or some gloss and you're set.


Now here's a bonus: For some strange reason, guys prefer "french dipped" nails (aka, french manicure) over colors. There are varying theorries for this, some of which aren't very appropriate, but that seems to be the consensus. Like I said before, guys are simple creatures with simple tastes. They pretty much like "enhanced naturality," hence why they like natural makeup, french nails, and skinny jeans - they enhance what is natural about you. 

French meets ombre


This might be the most important thing, because no matter what you wear, if you don't have confidence, you're going to be lacking. One of the things I like to do to have confidence is to wear cute/sexy underwear. No guys is going to see it, but I know it's there, and that makes me feel 100x more confident. Wear your favorite, well-fitting pushup bra and your sexiest undies (whether it be a thong or boyshorts) in order to feel as sexy as you want to look.

Annie said, "You're never fullly dressed without a smile," and it's so true. Before you leave or in the car on the way, listen to your favorite happy songs. Sing along loudly or dance around like no one is watching in order to boost endorphins and your mood. Also, don't forget to brush your teeth before you leave to ensure a bright smile free of plaque. 

This is a special message for you taken ladies: you have a boyfriend. Some of your sisters do not. It is your job to play wing woman at this thing. Like I said before, mixers are there to help your single sisters find dates. You already have a date for every single event, so you need to be there for your sisters. If she's nervous about talking to a cute guy, go up with her and help her start a conversation with him. If you see a sister standing alone, talk to her and maybe help her find someone new to meet. You have an important job! And YOU have the most confidence because you already have a boyfriend - lucky you. So be sure to help your sisters have confidence, too. 

I know that mixers seem intimidating. But when it comes down to it, the only pressure that exists is the pressure you put on yourself. So look cute, take a deep breath, put a smile on, and have fun! Because THAT'S really the point. And if a guy sees you're having fun, he'll want to have fun with you. Mission acccomplished. ;)

Do you have any tips for what to wear/how to be confident for a mixer? Leave a comment!

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